1 Month Check up!

My husband had his one month check up the other day. It was his first appointment since he started the process. This month he lost 17 lbs. He exercised 2-4 times. It is hard for him since we don't have access to exercise equipment and it is to embarrassing to go to the gym. However, he has been eating good. We only eat low fat foods, whole wheat, whole grains, more fruits and veggies, and make sure to get more protein. Plus, instead of eating 3 large meals we eat 6 small one. I haven't lost weight yet (I cheat a lot)! I am still so proud of him and need to buckle down myself as well!

The most important thing to eating this way is planning. I want to plan a weekly menu, but don't really know how. It is hard to find easy healthy recipes that we all will like. The hardest part is my two picky toddlers! I would love to have an easy computer program or website that I could make a menu and print out shopping lists!!!!

Support person...

I am supposed to be my husbands support person. I'm not sure what that means exactly. I don't know why I need an official title to do what I have always been doing. Haven't I? I make his appointments. In fact he was supposed to have one today but made me cancel it. I was furious. I thought, "If you aren't gonna go to the appointments I set up then set up your own!" I didn't mean to be crass, but I felt stupid setting up an appointment then cancelling it. Plus, he didn't say he was to tired and feeling sick. At that time he made it sound like it was my fault he wasn't going. Because me and the kids weren't going with. I know that is part of it, but he is not a child. He should be able to go alone. It is a hassle for me to go and bring the kids, but it is no different for him either way. I am just really mad about the whole thing. On top of that he acted very childish about it all. I feel like a mother not a wife. If I am the mom I want to be able to tell him what to do and ground him when he doesn't follow through! I can't support him if he won't let me.

So he missed his appointment for a complete physical from our family doctor. I will have to reschedule it. He did go earlier this week, by himself, for his abdominal ultrasound, and chest xray.

Help!

My husband said that if I don't help him with this he won't succeed. At first I was upset by this comment. I felt that is horrible to place that type of blame on me. I know that if he doesn't succeed it won't be my fault, but at the same time he will need my help and support. He will need more than that if he can get it. I am talking about the entire families support as well.

My in-laws are the greatest people ever, but they are enablers like me. They have all kinds of food that he can't have. When you are hungry you will eat whatever is easiest. Healthy food never is the easiest or fastest choice. If it were we would all be healthy because we would all eat the best foods.

One of the hardest parts is that healthy food is also the most expensive. With the economy the way it is money is thin and needs to go as far as possible. I wish I knew how to cook more. If I new how to make healthier foods it would be easy. I can only cook about 7 different meals, and most aren't that healthy. Most of them contain pasta!

I am doing my best and learning as I go. The most important thing is that I am here for him.